Midlife Mojo
By admin on Jul 6, 2009 in Midlife Mojo
I thought I would share the Prologue with you from my book Midlife Mojo… I am always interested in your thoughts.. hugs.frankie
Hello there and thank you for picking up
our book. Yes I did say our book.our book!
You see, I know that I look like a normal woman in her fifties, a mother, a business
woman and a responsible member of society; all true. However, I also know
that pre-conceptions, based on how people look and act, can be deceiving.
What I am about to tell you will either challenge your thinking or it will reinforce
your opinion of me: that I am an amazing woman with the capacity to continue
to astound you in a good way. Okay, the opposite might also be true, and you
will find yourself reaching for the phone to call the goons in white, pretending
that I am in need of a vacation at the local funny farm!
I have always been a rebel at heart, and have challenged authority and those in
charge for as long as I can remember. Given this ‘attitude’ it would stand to reason
that I wouldn’t just accept what I am told as gospel. I would need to find out
for myself. Many times the hard way, as my poor parents will attest.
Sure, I am a sensible woman, even one who abounds with common sense, which
we all know is not that common. I am not given to flights of fancy in the ‘non
creative sense’ and I would say that I am grounded and down to earth. I don’t
drink or do drugs, but I do believe in some theories that are not quite mainstream.
This is the only place in the book I bring these up, but I do want you to know
where I am coming from and why.
As you know, I specialize in turning impossible ideas into unstoppable outcomes.
Theodore Roethke, the late great American Poet said, “What the world needs
now are more people who specialize in the impossible”. I have no idea why he
said it, but he was speaking my language.
There are some folks (and I admit to being one of them) who believe we choose
to work on elevating our souls, and one way to do that is to volunteer to come to
earth. Now don’t get me wrong, not everyone wants to be reincarnated. In fact,
there are souls who have never come here. Try to keep an open mind here. You
have heard the term soul mate? Well it had to come from somewhere.
It is said by those who have had near death experiences that the desire to stay on
the ‘other side’ is so compelling, the pull of the light, the warmth and the feeling
of complete and unconditional love so great, that the hardest thing to do is to
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leave it, come back to earth and resume life. This is not new knowledge and I bet
you have heard it before.
Given that this phenomena has been well documented and experienced by thousands
of individuals, logic would state that being on the ‘other side’, must be a
‘beautiful thing’. Most of us on Earth don’t like to think about dying. However,
allowing for a second that everything I have said up to now is true, then doesn’t it
stand to reason that it would take a very special person (you) to sign up for a mission
to live on earth where hardship, negativity and ignorance abound?
Think about this for a moment. When you really stop to think about it, is it any
more fantastic than to believe that we come here for absolutely no reason at all?
We come from nowhere, live, work and die, and after 75 or 100 years that is it.
Finito, done! What was THAT all about? Personally, I find that much harder to
believe that we have NO purpose or reason for living other than just breathing
for breathing’s sake.
As a caveat let me state that the rest of this book will suit those who lean towards concrete
constructs, pragmatic problem solving, and strategic planning.
True, it’s unfortunate that you don’t remember why you came here, but my theory
is that it is right now, during this time of ‘unrest’ in your middle years, when
this is exactly what is happening. You are waking up to your ‘raison d’etre’ and,
just like a butterfly breaking free from its cocoon or a chick pecking out from its
shell, you are re-learning what it means to live as higher being, to be connected to
all consciousness and to know that you are a powerful being. Your thoughts create
your reality and, once you decide to live your life by choice, you will remember
that life is supposed to be about living in joy. You are supposed to be happy
instead of permanently frustrated and frowning. Won’t it feel good to give up the
angst for unconditional love and joy?
You are beginning to ‘read’ the signals the universe is sending you and pretty
soon it will all make sense. You will awaken from your ‘coma’ and know your
truth.
The people who are in our lives right now may be here for a reason, but they
could also be here for a season. They may be around us for a few weeks to remind
us to look after ourselves, but the reverse can also be true. You may be a lesson for
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someone else as well. It is something that may come to light or not, but it doesn’t
really matter. We are constantly in a period of growth and change, and it is up to
us to make the most of our time here.
I know right now you feel trapped in a Catch 22. You are afraid to live the life
you want, but at the same time,
You are at war inside and it is driving you crazy. Who will win? The one who is
stronger I suppose. Shall we take bets now, or let you read on a bit more first?
you are afraid not too! That is quite a dilemma.
I want you to know that although I might make fun and light of a few things, I know
that this is a serious situation you find yourself in; I am not laughing at you or judging
you, EVER! The content of this book is based on a lifetime of work and experience. I
am very serious about helping you change. However, I think it is possible to keep a
light spirit along the way.
You say that you are not feeling like ‘YOU’ anymore, and you don’t know why.
You are worried that you might be going nuts and you aren’t sure who to turn
too. All you know is that your life is suddenly not what you had thought you
signed on for, and you want to change your ticket or get a refund.
Why not change your life for one you do want instead? It’s not as hard as you
might think. In fact, once you take that first step, you will wonder why you
didn’t do it years earlier.
I can tell you from my own experience that the fence you are sitting on is normal.
What you are experiencing is just one more stage of life, Mid Life. Hey, if it
wasn’t, then there wouldn’t be a book, right?
I realize that the future may seem uncertain and that contemplating change may
seem like a scary proposition, but I can assure you that the exercises included in
this book will assist you in alleviating much of your angst. In fact, I promise you
that if you are an active participant you will answer many of the Big ‘up in the air’
questions that are plaguing your right now. You will also walk away feeling confident
and able to take charge of your life.
Oh, about that refund (for your Life): sorry, the BIG Guy says no exchanges,
only reinventions!
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I have already alluded to this, but Please hear me Loud and Clear: this is not a
book where you can just sit back and read. Well you could, but then it won’t do
what it is intended to. The plan is for you to actively participate in order to ease
you through your metamorphosis.
I believe that you have been wondering if you really have a purpose in life, other
than the one you are living right now. Am I correct? You are questioning your
Spirituality and opening yourself up to ‘other’ possibilities. You want to believe
that there is a Master Plan and that there is more meaning to life than what you
are currently experiencing. I mean you weren’t put on earth to clean up poodle
poop, right?
Since you have picked up this book, I am going to assume that you have started
your journey to find yourself. You are seeking knowledge that will help you know
for certain what your purpose is. You want to know who you are and, most
importantly, what you should be doing in the future. If this is so, then you have
come to the right place.
This book will be your MOJO. For those of you who are unfamiliar with the
term Mojo, it is Strong Protection. A Medicine man or Shaman would give it in
small pouch for the bearer to wear. It gives one courage to walk into unknown
territory. While you are here, I am your Mojo. You do not walk alone. I am here
every step of the way to gently nudge you through the process (okay, maybe I am
not so gentle, but I mean well).
What was my purpose for writing Midlife Mojo? Well it was threefold.
Firstly
feels like to lose your whole life. I understand what it feels like to get down so low
that despair is down right cheerful, but what I don’t know is how to stop fighting
or stand down. I don’t understand defeat. It ain’t ever over till you are six feet
under so I figured, why not live this third stage of your life on your terms?
, I wanted to share with you the benefit of my experiences. I know what it
Secondly,
life. You are not happy and haven’t been for awhile. Perhaps you are feeling like
you are trapped in a life that you don’t want to live anymore, and you don’t
know what to do about. I know that part of this feeling is that the Universe has
been trying to reach you, and that is the questioning part. Once you understand
I know that you have been troubled recently by questions about your
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that you have a CHOICE and YOU get to CHOOSE, those feelings will dissipate.
I know that the idea of upsetting the apple cart is unthinkable to you right now.
Change is scary and maybe you don’t really want to be alone. Besides, you can’t
do it right now, can you? I mean you have your spouse, kids, your job, maybe
even a group that you belong to that depend on you or an elderly parent that you
support. How can you possibly think of changing your life right now? Besides
you don’t have any money, so there! OK, STOP! Who are you trying to convince,
me or you? Good try though.
Thirdly
want your time here to have meaning and you deserve happiness. It is our God
given right, whether you believe in her or not. The truth is you want to change
your life and you want to be happy, but you don’t know how to go about making
the changes necessary to do so.
This is where I come in! It is my reason for writing this book, and this is why it is
OUR book. It is our book because I am not handing it to you with a thanks for
buying it, and then running off. We are doing it together.
There are two things I would like you to draw upon right now: your
your
trust that you have been given this book at the right time in your life. The other
is your confidence. Feel your confidence grow as you make your way through this
book, and have confidence that one of us knows what we are doing. BIG SMILE!
I am an expert in change. I am also an expert in how to reinvent your life. It
scares you to even think about all the changes that will be taking place, doesn’t it?
I bet you have thought about it so much that you have gotten into a state of analysis
paralysis, but don’t worry, the exercises within are designed to help you let go
and release what is holding you back. The experiential process requires you to
participate, and it is through this connection that the alchemy begins.
Mojo is strong medicine and, just like Luke from Star Wars, The Force is within
you.
, I know that these thoughts scare you, but you also want to grow. Youfaith andconfidence. I want you to have faith that you been led to this manuscript;
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This book is as prescriptive as it is participatory, and this is where the true Power
comes from. Mojo is protective medicine and you will find that when you need
your Courage, it will be there for you.
Midlife Mojo is about Change, and whether this manifests physically, emotionally
or spiritually for you, it is important for you to realize that you are always in
control, at the helm so to speak, and the captain of your own ship. What does
this really mean?
It means that you get to decide how you are going to live out the Third stage of
your life, or say the next 30 or so years!
This choice is Yours, and always has been, but now you have concrete tools to
assist and support you in making the changes you know are necessary for your
well being.
You will be choosing, instead of allowing or just following along. This is what
you were always meant to do. You are going to stop living in default and start
taking responsibility for your life, for this is where real power comes from. When
you are responsible, you don’t need to fear anything or hide from anyone. I know
that this resonates with you and that you can feel it is true.
It is my deepest wish that you will follow the path to where your happiness lies,
and that you will live out the rest of your life in joy. It is down this road that you
will find your purpose. You will always know that you have chosen well if you
continue to
With all my ‘unconditional’ love,
Frankie
feel happiness.
I suppose some books are written because they are cathartic for the writer, but
Mid Life Mojo was written with you in mind from beginning to end. In fact it
was written so that we can work together; ergo, it is
I want you to know that before I began to write each chapter I connected with
you. I thought about what you were doing in that moment and how you might
be feeling.
I know that you are looking to find yourself, your true self, and you are seeking
ways to have a deeper connection with the Universe and find your soul’s purpose.
You are questioning your life. Perhaps you ask “Why am I here?” “What is my
purpose in life? “Is this all there is for me?”
Have you wondered if you are a spiritual being having an earth experience, or an
earth being seeking a spiritual experience? Has anyone answered your queries yet?
Anyone that you can’t see?
I believe that you are most definitely a spiritual being and that earth is your classroom.
You have come here seeking experiences that will facilitate your understanding
of humanity, in all of our glory. The wide range of feelings and
emotions humans are subject too are the lessons that you came here seeking, and
if you don’t open yourself up to the learning, then you really have wasted a fantastic
trip of a lifetime, n’est ce pas?
What I am about to say may shock some of you, especially those of you think you
know me by looking at me.
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2 Comment(s)
By Michael Pokocky on Jul 7, 2009 | Reply
This is wonderfully free and unbound writing f. I am so glad I came by to see it. Man has asked the questions you have asked throughout history and although each has never truly written the definitive explanations man wants so much to hear and express with clarity — that’s because there is no answer that is definitive — it is noble that each who shares this journey shares what they know with everyone. In the aggregate there is clarity which I think inspires one to take the journey.
By admin on Jul 7, 2009 | Reply
Thanks Michael.. you are too sweet. I will send you a copy.. hugs..frankie